Questions and Answers of teens at RCCG Power Sanctuary

Question:

How can I know who I am?

Answer:

Self-discovery is very important, you should be able to understand yourself so as to identify your likes and dislikes, as a student you should know subjects you are good at and those ones you are poor at. Also you should be able to know your passion (what you love doing). Moreover, primarily you need God to reveal to you who you truly are Jer1:5. God created you for a purpose and Only Him have the manual of your life. To live a fulfilling life you need to ask God through prayers and study of the bible. I also recommend you read book of anointed men of God like Purpose Driven Life by Ricken Warren, Following God’s Plan for your Life by Kenneth E. Hagin, The Assignment by Mick Murdock. Also books written by Dr. Myles Munroe on purpose or vision

Question:

What if you have a boyfriend but nothing is going on between both of you, just talking and he don’t ask of anything?

Answer:

Quit such relationship because both of you are not mature mentality and spiritual to handle a relationship without fornicating. There is time for everything. Don’t be deceive the heart of men are desperately wicked who can know it. If you don’t quit the relationship, it is a matter of time that “things” will start happen and you will regret it.

Question:

If a guy need sex in a hurry should you give it to him or he begs you to give it to him in a hurry?

Answer:

No. don’t let any boy pressurize you into having sex with him. Hurry or no hurry fornication is a sin. And its consequences are dangerous to your destiny. It can also lead to unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted disease (STD) eg, HIV AIDS, gonorrhea etc.

Question:

What is masturbation?

Answer:

Self and manual erotic stimulation of your genital (sex organ) so as to have a sexual pleasure. This act is a sin. Also it have negative impact on your health medically in that it enhances infections in your genital region

Question:

In a case when you had a boyfriend/ girlfriend, and you decided to call it quit but the boy or girl is seeing you as an enemy, what do you do?

Answer:

Ignore the person, your future is more important to you.

Question:

As a male when you slept and the next morning you find out that you released sperm without dreams does that makes you sexually impure?

Answer:

This experience is called wet dream (or nocturnal emission) which is define as a spontaneous orgasm during sleep that includes ejaculation for male or vaginal wetness for female. This occurs mostly at adolescence age but it can also happen any time after puberty. Hence, wet dream is natural and it isn’t a sin. However, such experience can be induced through watching porn or sexual lust (fornicating in the heart), so it becomes sin at that point.

Question:

What if somebody rape you and since then you never had sex again but you ask God for forgiveness. Is it still a sin?

Answer:

If you seduced the person that raped you (maybe through your dressing or flirting with the rapist etc.), to you it is a sin. However, the moment you ask God for forgiveness He does forgiven you (1John2:1). Please seek elderly wise counsel so as to be healed from the hurt of the rape experience.

Question:

Is it possible to check do virginity test in the hospital?

Answer:

Yes. But there are organization and individuals especially girls right activist that are against virginity test.

Question:

Can you have a girl as your best friend?

Answer:

Continuous communication will an opposite sex breeds intimacy and feelings. Therefore, it is not advisable to have an opposite sex as a best friend.

Question:

If one was raped by an uncle who should you tell to avoid misunderstanding?

Answer:

According to UN raped is define as a silent epidemic in Africa but I would advise you tell your mother.

Question:

What if I have been involved in sexual immorality in the past but made a resolution to stop, is it too late even if the men involved were more than 2 or 3?

Answer:

It is not too late, disconnect from all those men that have had sex with you. Make sure you break all forms of communication with them. Also don’t go into any relationship until you are spiritually mature to handle a relationship. 

Question:

Is it possible to have a female friend as a boy and not have feelings for her?

Answer:

It depends on you level of closeness. Continuous communication with an opposite sex breeds intimacy and feelings.

Question:

Is it a sin to hug, shake and kiss an opposite sex as greetings?

Answer:

Let you greetings with the opposite sex not go beyond hand shake. Kissing isn’t primarily a form of greeting but to touch with lips to an expression love or affection or passion. Kissing is only justified in marriage. So any teen practicing kissing is sinning because kissing can lead to fornication. Also, hugging would not have been a problem but some people misinterpret this gesture.

Question:

One morning a guy mistakenly called my number but ever since he has been calling to ask me out. I told everybody close to me after talking to the guy yet he still keeps disturbing me. One evening I used my mum’s phone to call him then the next day he called my mum’s number. My parent scolded me with words, after that I realize that I took up a mentality that can kill my destiny. What should I do? Should I call him and tell him I am now born again?

Answer:

Thank God, you realized early that you actions are wrong. Bad guys are smart they can win you heart by continual communication with you. You can call him and tell him you are born again, moreover, it might not be needful for you to call him, just cut all forms of communication you have with him. Whichever way,  Barn his calls from entering you phone by using the call baring setting on your phone, block him on whatsapp, Facebook or any social media you both have establish any form of communication. Lastly, delete his number and never contact him again. 1cor 6:18, 1Tim 2:22

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YOU ARE NOT A SLAVE?

God paid a great price for you. So don't become slaves of anyone else.  (1 Corinthians 7:23 CEV)

INTRODUCTION

The world is subject to the slavery of sickness, poverty, crime, sin, demonic attack, failures, curses etc. but if you are a child of God you are free. God in His love (John3:16), made payment for you through the blood of Jesus Christ. Hence, you are not for sale to devil, failure, poverty, sin, sexual immorality etc. Firstly, by the way of definition who is a slave?
A Slave: a person who is dominated by somebody or something, someone in bondage, in servitude and imprisoned or restricted (zero progress).
In this publication, I will be discussing five (5) key points that will help you to live as a King/Queen that you are. Being a King/Queen signifies Royalty, Wealth & Riches, Authority, freedom, all round excellence etc. these five (5) key points defines your royalty and your worth.

1. MINDSET (Phil 4:8)

Dr. Farrah Gray, named by BET in 2012 as the Famous Black Entrepreneur, who at age of 14 became a millionaire. He is a businessman, investor, philanthropist, author and a motivational speaker. Although Gray was raised on Chicago’s South side by a single parent (mother), obviously born poor. But his mindset contributed immensely to his success. At a tender age, he told his teacher he was going to be a millionaire and an entrepreneur but the teacher said you are not going to be anything, you better go find someone to work for and she pointed to McDonald. Gray looked at her and thought maybe she is right. On getting home, he asked the grandma “why did she say I won’t be successful” you shouldn’t listen to her replied the grandma, every person put on their pant one leg at a time expect they jump into it. She said wake up every morning and say “Why not me?” i.e. if anybody is going to be a millionaire why not me. That counsel changed Farrah Gray forever.
As a man thinks in his heart so is he. Your mindset is the way you think, otherwise known as you mentality. Your mentality is directly proportional to your self-esteem. A slave have a low self-esteem as a result of negative thinking, they never see anything good about themselves. There are a lot of negative people in this world and do not allow them to sell you to negativity. Your mindset determines your actions i.e. if you think positively you will have a positive life. Stop thinking about failures, evil or lack but believe in yourself and have faith in God.

2. DRIVE FOR SUCCESS

When someone tells you that you are a failure or you are never going to make it, the best revenge isn’t to hate or abuse the fellow but to forgive and proof the person wrong by succeeding extraordinarily. You have got to convert the bad things anyone says about or to you into energy to drive success. This defines Sijibomi Ogundele, he became a billionaire at the age of 33. Sijibomi in an interview narrated an experience he would never forget. “An experience I would never forget is when a high school teacher always told me: Olasiji Ogundele, you would never amount to anything. You are too stubborn; you are too dumb. Today, this teacher works for Sujimoto construction (a company own by Sijibomi) as one of our consultants.” If they say you “CAN’T DO IT” don’t be angry or feel rejected “JUST DO IT”

3. EDUCATION

I believe so much in this quote of Nelson Mandela “Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.” Knowledge is power. The scripture says “Let instruction and knowledge mean more to you than silver or the finest gold.  (Pro 8:10 CEV)”. Education goes beyond going to school and passing exams, you must develop the culture of reading. Readers are leaders. Hence, people that don’t read are slaves. When Warren Buffet, the third richest man in the world was building up a career in investing, he would read up to 1000 pages every single day. According to science every human being have the same numbers of cells in the brain, therefore, there is no reason why anyone should be better than you. What differentiates us is our level of knowledge.

4. RESOLUTION

To be successful in life is a choice. Toyosi Akerele, founder and CEO of Rise Network was named by Forbes in 2014 as one of the 20 Youngest Power Women in Africa. While going up raised by her poor mother at the age of 13 resolve that “no man will have sex with me for money.” Great people are known by the decision they made that others didn’t make. Daniel made up his mind not to harm himself by eating the king's rich food and drinking the king's wine. … (Dan 1:8 GW). In this generation the kings food and wine is sexual immorality (fornication, masturbation, watching porn etc.). So as not to be enslaved make a resolution not to harm yourself with sexual sins. There is pride in virginity. This resolution differentiated Joseph from Samson.

5. VISION

(Pro 29:18 KJV)  Where there is no vision, the people perish… show me a man without vision and I will show you a slave. You are not born by mistake no matter the circumstances of your birth. God has a plan for you. God plan you to be great, and to attain greatness you must ask God to show you “the Purpose behind your birth”  "Jeremiah, I am your Creator, and before you were born, I chose you to speak for me to the nations."  (Jer 1:5 CEV). You are born to be a solution to a problem. God has uniquely created you for a purpose, it is your duty to discover it. Prayers and study of the bible is a pathway to discovering your purpose.

WHO ARE YOU?

I am bought with the blood of Jesus and I am not for sale to sin or sexual immorality. I am not cheap, I am an heir of God and joint heir with Christ. I am a winner, I will never quit. I am born uniquely to be great. Every voices that say I am a failure, I am inadequate or I won’t make it, is silenced. No matter how rough my way may be or how my background could have been I am victorious. My past mistakes or failures won’t define me nor hold me back, I am reaching out for a glorious future in God. I resolve to be sexually pure I say no to boyfriends or girlfriends. I know who I am.

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