Question:
How
can I know who I am?
Answer:
Self-discovery is
very important, you should be able to understand yourself so as to identify
your likes and dislikes, as a student you should know subjects you are good at
and those ones you are poor at. Also you should be able to know your passion
(what you love doing). Moreover, primarily you need God to reveal to you who
you truly are Jer1:5. God created you for a purpose and Only Him have the
manual of your life. To live a fulfilling life you need to ask God through
prayers and study of the bible. I also recommend you read book of anointed men
of God like Purpose Driven Life by Ricken Warren, Following God’s Plan for your
Life by Kenneth E. Hagin, The Assignment by Mick Murdock. Also books written by
Dr. Myles Munroe on purpose or vision
Question:
What
if you have a boyfriend but nothing is going on between both of you, just
talking and he don’t ask of anything?
Answer:
Quit such
relationship because both of you are not mature mentality and spiritual to
handle a relationship without fornicating. There is time for everything. Don’t
be deceive the heart of men are desperately wicked who can know it. If you
don’t quit the relationship, it is a matter of time that “things” will start
happen and you will regret it.
Question:
If a guy need sex in a hurry
should you give it to him or he begs you to give it to him in a hurry?
Answer:
No. don’t let any
boy pressurize you into having sex with him. Hurry or no hurry fornication is a
sin. And its consequences are dangerous to your destiny. It can also lead to
unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted disease (STD) eg, HIV AIDS,
gonorrhea etc.
Question:
What
is masturbation?
Answer:
Self
and manual erotic stimulation of your genital (sex organ) so as to have a
sexual pleasure. This act is a sin. Also it have negative impact on your health
medically in that it enhances infections in your genital region
Question:
In
a case when you had a boyfriend/ girlfriend, and you decided to call it quit
but the boy or girl is seeing you as an enemy, what do you do?
Answer:
Ignore the person,
your future is more important to you.
Question:
As
a male when you slept and the next morning you find out that you released sperm
without dreams does that makes you sexually impure?
Answer:
This experience is
called wet dream (or nocturnal emission) which is define as a spontaneous
orgasm during sleep that includes ejaculation for male or vaginal wetness for
female. This occurs mostly at adolescence age but it can also happen any time
after puberty. Hence, wet dream is natural and it isn’t a sin. However, such
experience can be induced through watching porn or sexual lust (fornicating in
the heart), so it becomes sin at that point.
Question:
What
if somebody rape you and since then you never had sex again but you ask God for
forgiveness. Is it still a sin?
Answer:
If you seduced the
person that raped you (maybe through your dressing or flirting with the rapist
etc.), to you it is a sin. However, the moment you ask God for forgiveness He
does forgiven you (1John2:1). Please seek elderly wise counsel so as to be
healed from the hurt of the rape experience.
Question:
Is
it possible to check do virginity test in the hospital?
Answer:
Yes. But there are organization
and individuals especially girls right activist that are against virginity
test.
Question:
Can
you have a girl as your best friend?
Answer:
Continuous
communication will an opposite sex breeds intimacy and feelings. Therefore, it
is not advisable to have an opposite sex as a best friend.
Question:
If one was raped by an uncle who
should you tell to avoid misunderstanding?
Answer:
According to UN
raped is define as a silent epidemic in Africa but I would advise you tell your
mother.
Question:
What
if I have been involved in sexual immorality in the past but made a resolution
to stop, is it too late even if the men involved were more than 2 or 3?
Answer:
It is not too late,
disconnect from all those men that have had sex with you. Make sure you break
all forms of communication with them. Also don’t go into any relationship until
you are spiritually mature to handle a relationship.
Question:
Is it possible to have a female
friend as a boy and not have feelings for her?
Answer:
It
depends on you level of closeness. Continuous communication with an opposite
sex breeds intimacy and feelings.
Question:
Is it a sin to hug, shake and
kiss an opposite sex as greetings?
Answer:
Let
you greetings with the opposite sex not go beyond hand shake. Kissing isn’t
primarily a form of greeting but to touch with lips to an expression love or
affection or passion. Kissing is only justified in marriage. So any teen
practicing kissing is sinning because kissing can lead to fornication. Also,
hugging would not have been a problem but some people misinterpret this
gesture.
Question:
One morning a guy mistakenly
called my number but ever since he has been calling to ask me out. I told
everybody close to me after talking to the guy yet he still keeps disturbing
me. One evening I used my mum’s phone to call him then the next day he called
my mum’s number. My parent scolded me with words, after that I realize that I
took up a mentality that can kill my destiny. What should I do? Should I call
him and tell him I am now born again?
Answer:
Thank
God, you realized early that you actions are wrong. Bad guys are smart they can
win you heart by continual communication with you. You can call him and tell
him you are born again, moreover, it might not be needful for you to call him,
just cut all forms of communication you have with him. Whichever way, Barn his calls from entering you phone by
using the call baring setting on your phone, block him on whatsapp, Facebook or
any social media you both have establish any form of communication. Lastly,
delete his number and never contact him again. 1cor 6:18, 1Tim 2:22
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